So I had a play date the other day.
My very first one.
It's where moms get together to let their kids play while they get some other adult interaction.
It was nice.
Bridge was the youngest. She sat on my lap and with bleary eyes watched the other kids play (it was nap time.)
I was selfish enough to sacrifice her nap time so I could reach out to other human beings.
As I chatted and got to know the other ladies I started to feel inadequate.
"Yeah, I started going to school when I was pregnant with my first, and I have been in school ever since."
(She is pregnant with her fifth due in May)
"I really hope this baby isn't clingy because I am starting nursing school in the fall."
"I know, going to school is the worst when you have kids. I failed two classes when my baby was a newborn, but now I am 3 weeks away from graduating."
"I teach aerobics." (and the primary president)
"I do hair."
"I have 4 kids and home-school all of them."
"I work part-time."
"I am a dental hygienist."
"I am so busy all the time, luckily today is my day off."
"Oh really, what do you do?"
"Music lessons, and I don't start teaching until 4:00 today so it feels like its my day off."
"Very nice, what kind of music lessons?"
"So, what do you do?"
"I stay at home with Bridget."
"Wow that would be so nice. What do you do all day?"
"Uh............. I clean, and cook, play with Bridget, and make curtains?"
I decided not to mention that I only clean sometimes, that I blog, and some days neither Bridge nor I get our of our pj's.
On more than one occasion my conversation with Trevor has gone something like this:
"Ok, scenario, if you had a chance to win a T.V and a scooter OR a trip to South Beach what would you choose?
"Oh really, well the lady on price is right or let's make a deal did...."
I feel like I am not busy enough though.
But when I am honest with myself I don't want to be so busy. I like that I can literally play with Bridget all day. I assume it only happens with the first baby, but she gets my attention.
I know it wasn't any of the ladies intention to make me feel inadequate.
So I am going to choose to remember:
-I actually do do quite a bit.
-I am extremely grateful I finished my schooling before I was even married.
-I get to spend everyday with my baby.
-I have become a much better cook than I ever knew I was capable of.
- We are incredibly blessed that we can live off Trevor's income so I don't have to work, one day that may change.
-My life will inevitably get busier, so there is no point in filling it with things I don't really want to do now, just so I can fit in.
I am grateful for my life and what I have now.
p.s. I really enjoy all the ladies and I am excited to have them as my friends. I adore them already. And since they have gone through all the baby stuff before I am so grateful when they answer my never ending questions.